Friday, February 3, 2012

Love= Distance?

In his hands, he's holding a piece of paper that may change the course of the future of you two forever. It was no surprise that he got accepted to the one ivy league school he's always dreamt of going to. You're ecstatic and overjoyed for him and his achievement, but then you begin to realize that the school is in Massachusetts while the school you're about to attend in in California...As you congratulate him with a sweet embrace, you begin to feel heavily guilty for not wanting him to go...

Since the first encounter, you relished in the idea of dating a strong man who serves his country and the gratituity that you express when he makes time to show his devotion for you. After months of establishing the foundation of your intimate relationship, the date that you've been dreading creeps up. It is the day he is leaving to Iraq. The bags of his clothes and few belongings are packed and set in a corner of your room. You've discussed the possibilities of making it work and the countless letter and pictures you'll be sending him overseas. You tell yourself that you can survive the 6 months. But you never discussed the possibility of it not working. As you clutch onto the army green uniform at the terminal, tears trickle down your cheek and you kiss him. You kiss him as if you'll never see him again...

As you're watching your beautiful woman stride across the stage to receive her diploma from her completion of the four years she's worked so hard for to attain...imagery of her and you begin to blur. But you can't help but to feel down. Although you've promised one another a lifetime of loving one're both on separate pages. You see her rush to you with her hand holding on to her cap and gown as she jumps onto you and wraps her hands around your neck and plants a delighted kiss. Within an instant, she melts away your doubts.

You've been aware of the job proposal that she received in New York, but you couldn't force yourself to think about it. She's climbing higher and higher towards her ambitions while, you're still stuck working grave-yard shifts as a security guard. Face it, she's going to leave you regardless how much she proclaims her loyalty for you. With the thousands of miles between you is inevitable...Should you be the one to break the saddening news, or shall you wait for her to...

Although these three contrasting stories are fictional, the theme that carries through-out their relationships is not. Weighing the balance between the scales of distance and love, is a scenario that countless couples have to unfortunately experience each year.

The issues of infidelity, lost of chemistry, or incompatible personalities ...but you would be more in control of the situation then watching your loved one board a plan to live in another state.

(still to be continued. etc.)

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

2011 flashback. 2012 preview

I shall no longer shower my blogposts with excuses of my neglection ...because let's face it. I AM busy. With Twitter,Facebook, and Tumblr now consuming a chunk of my socialnetworking time, my blog has been dwindling into extinction :((

With that aside, we have a mere 4 days, 96 hours, 5780 minutes, 346,785 seconds and counting...until 2012! Bam. Scary isn't it? Will we really all poof out of existence? 0_o

Although I am anticipating what the new year of 2012 will have in store for me, I can't help but to reminisce on all of the dramatic changes of the year 2011. From my love life to my family and to my academic/work life... a lot has changed drastically.

Imagine what you were doing in the month of february, or who were you seeing last October...We grow so much within a certain amount of time, and given just 365 days, we have the ability to morph into a completely different character. Our traits mold according to our experiences so just picture how you will be, what you will be doing, or who you'll be with in 2012.

2011 has been quite a year, in the family sector 2010 has still been one of the most traumatic years, but this year for myself has been a turning point.

Being Laid-off: Wasn't exactly the cherry on top of a sundae as my start of the new year, but being laid off from working at Anchor Blue for two years may have been one of the best things for me. The co-workers were the ones I adored, but the minimum-wage pay (with no raises) wasn't cutting it. With the cahin of stores closing down, I motivated myself to find a better paying job. Thank-got ;p

Heartbroken: It stings, but it happens. What did it teach me? That I may be have my heart broken many, many times is something that you can never predict and it may be something that you may never prevent. All you can do is cope with it. Time heals all.

New Jobs: They've all been retail, and still working retail. But new working environments means new personalities to work with, new tasks and responsibilities. the two month break of beign unable to find work was utterly exhausting. I'm an industrious person,meaning, I like to work because it brings some kind of purpose to my life.

Relationship: Never have I been in a titled relationship and the start of it was a bit frightening...but everything has began to flow now. I like him a lot. Like may be an understatement. He showers me with affection, something that I had always longed for. Spending the holidays with him made my Christmas a lot more warmer <3

What is the ruckus about a new year, anyway? Is it because we are able to refresh our stagnant states of living and set unreachable goals for ourselves?

I've always looked forward to a new year, but what I've stopped doing is creating "New-Year Resolutions" for myself. Why does one have to set goals for one's self only for the new year, why can't one set daily, weekly, or monthly goals? If certain aspects of life lack passion, adventure, beauty, or happiness, we shouldnt' have to wait 11 months to cram all of our wants into the eve of a new year.

Sunday, August 21, 2011

Busy Bumble Bee

This summer has defnitely been a hectic one. Even though I went to Los Cabos San Lucas in the first week of August, between starting a new job, a five-hour speech class, and trying to purchase a new passport that I had lost! I managed to balance everything out...

But I wanted to let you ladies know, that I have been working at H&M, yes one of the most fashionable European (affordable) clothing stores in the U.S! It's amazing, the co-workers are all diverse, cultured and amusing... but the customers can definitely put you to work. I sometimes don't get out of the store until 12 a.m. But money=$$$.

I am also proud to say that I got a high "A" in my speech class! It was an intensive couse, that was 5-hours long, 4 days a week... try balancing that our with work. But I'm content with my completion:)

So what have I been partaking beside school and work, well a few shopping sprees to SF DT, a baseball game, Santa Cruz, lunches with friends...nothing too crazy. I do miss going out, I just never have the time too.

*NAKED PALLETE: I'm late, but I LOVE IT. I don't really wear that much dramatic looks to work, all I need is a pallete of neutral/earthtoned shades and I'm good to go.

Los Cabos, Mexico was amazing. Although the weather was extremely humid. We stayed at the Royal Solaris Resort, 4/5 stars. The food, beaches and people were amazing. I'm several shades darker, and a few pounds heavier but it was all worth it <3


Saturday, June 4, 2011

Color me Happy

So far in good ol' Cali, summer weather has been much disappointing. Non-stop raining in the month of June? Oh my, we must have made mother nature mad. Surelyyy, I wanted to slap some color on my face to brighten my day to boost this melancholy mood:)

Vibrant lime green, golden yellow, mangeta pink, and smoked out blues, and name a few. Why not Color me happy?

(lipstick : Milani- Hip Rose ; My favorite hot pink l/s!)

I was playing with the Coastal Scent's Pallete/ Star's Make-up Haven and I am in LOVE. The colors are so well-pigmented, and the color pay-off is amazing. I bought it solely to use it on my clientele when it was "Ball" season, but of course I had to model some looks on myself first. <3

(I purchased the Double layer pan 42 e/s and blush pallete in Shimmer)
-->The glitter wasn't too chunky as I thought and it was an absolute buy for 24 bucks! Ladies need to snatch one, its not exactly a practical pallete, but the colors are addicting to play with!


Mother Nature, please bring back the sunshine and heat for me this summer; I'd very much like to playyy in the sun!

Hope all you beauties is having a wonderful summer regardless!


Thursday, April 21, 2011

Prom season is heree

Spring is my favorite season meaning, we can break out our floral dresses, bright rompers, fedoras, coral lipstick, book trips to the beach or park and of course its PROM SEASON for the budding ladies.

I madeover Francesca and Hannah, They both wanted a smokey look, but with their age and the soft pink color of their dresses...

I decided to go with a different route. for Francesca I gave her a gold pigment theme, coral lipstick. For Hannah,She had monolids so I gave her a subtle smokey eye of earth tone shades and a nude lip..

LESS IS MORE <3 So I was definitely inspired by the beautiful spring weather. Their prom pictures came out just lovely

Monday, March 28, 2011

Lose your heart, but never lose your head

Bird's Eye View: (My take on relationships)

Topic of the week: Why are men so easy to take flight? and What to do about it

You and your guy have been smooth sailing and then all of a sudden -you hit a snag. Out of no where he goes MIA. Looking back at the time you guys spent together, you can't quite figure out why he would perform a disappearing act. It's been weeks and he hasn't called you back. You're checking your phone every 5 minutes to see if his name appears on the caller i.d.? You're even on his twitter or facebook constantly to see if he's updated a new status? Well, hunny let's face it.

1) He may be playing hard to get
2) He may be talking to someone else
3) He's busy with his own life
4) He doesn't want to get attached, or vice versa
5) He's got what he wanted out of you
6) He's just not that interested

But the truth is, the possibilities are ENDLESS. Instead of waiting for a ring from some guy that may be too busy to even think of you, why not cut straight to the facts. It doesn't matter if you've already slept with him, or you've wasted so much time and energy on this guy... because you can't change the past happenings. The only thing you have the ability to change is how you will handle the situation. And you better handle it with grace and poise.

First of all,

1) STOP waiting for his call or text, and don't you dare think about calling or texting him. If he wants to talk to you he'll FIND a way to talk to you. Men can smell desperation and neediness a mile away, and you clinging to your cell phone or his facebook page DOES NOT help. If he is playing hard to get, then he needs a reality check; this isn't middle school anymore where it's cute for girls to chase guys. With that time, INVEST IN YOURSELF: your career, your family, your friends, and your passionate pursuits. Don't wallow away your energy into self-pity.

2)So...he's found another woman. WHO CARES. Surely its definitely going to sting for a little bit, but if he is that quick to jump from woman to woman, then thank god that you've found out sooner than later that he's just another lowly boy who doesn't know what he HAD. Don't you dare second-guess your beauty, your personality, but most importantly don't you dare LOWER your own self-esteem. Maybe he found a woman with long legs, and the face of Adriana Lima... But you are UNIQUE, one of a kind, and you are a CATCH. She may be beautiful, but she may not have any depth, or she may not know how to carry on an articulate conversation like YOU. Soooo girll, don't even sweat it.

3)Men are BUSY with their own life and they may have lost track of time, and sometimes that means losing track of you. It may have been a week for him, but to you its felt like ages. Don't assume that he is cheating on you or that you have done something wrong for him to drift away. He may have been swamped with work, or personal problems within his own family and friends. Believe it or not, women are pretty lucky when it comes to expressing our problems or venting out our stress; we have a great range of girlfriends, siblings, mothers, and other outlets to be part of our support system. MEN DONT; they don't want to be deemed as overly sensitive, or whiny. If he's busy, just give him some space to pull his life together.

4) He may have heard the word commitment, relationship or settling down from you... and he takes flight. They say that women are complicated creatures, but on the contrary men are AFRAID. He may rationalize his unsettling actions as reasons for keeping his independence, but if he refers to you as an anchor, who is HOLDING HIM DOWN from what he wants to do, then get outtaaaa here. He's not worth it for you to consider him as a potential. It takes a lot out of a woman, to bring the subject of settling down to the man she is currently dating, because it means that she wants to share something more intimate, stable, and deep... but usually the feeling isn't always consensual. Just brush it off your shoulder because there are hundreds of handsome suitors waiting to put a "rock" on you, so why waste your time on this one?

5)TRY NOT to give your goodies away too quickly Trust me, I know by experience. All this SEX SEX and more SEX is plastered on the radio, t.v., and magazines where-ever you go. That can make it VERY difficult for a woman not to lustt. It is natural for us to fein for a man's touch and a man's powerful thrust of passion. BUT, that is not how men see sex. Once you have given him entrance to your body, so quickly or rashly... then he will no longer respect you and he will seek your easiness to please him and work it to his advantage. Sex is intimate and although women are fighting for the same respect as men to sleep with whoever we please, we are still wired to feeel. Always, remember that your body is a TEMPLE, whoever enters it, better be damnnn worthy!

6) This one might be the hardest part to swallow, but he's just not that into you. Although you may see him as your Prince Charming, or your Trey Songz, he might see you as quite the opposite; that doesn't necessarily mean that there is something wrong with youuu. You two might just be COMPLETELY incompatible: he may like to go out a lot, while you like to spend your nights in, he may be trying to further his academic life in college and you may be trying to get that much needed promotion at work.

*I've seen this happen to many freshly snatched couples, they tend to get burnt out, or just plain sick of each other. If you CONSTANTLY text/call them or see them on a daily basis, both of you will lose value in the time you guys spend together. I'm not trying to say that you should regulate your relationship into a schedule, but limit yourself to only seeing your guy no more than once or twice a week. It builds anticipation and it makes the dates you spend with him so much more meaningful and pleasing... to both parties.

There is no set or clear solution for the complications of one's love life because each is different. One advice that you should follow is : DON'T FORCE IT, don't try and force commitment, stability, or even love into someone who is not ready to experience those things. Let everything flowww at its own pace...because if you two were meant to be, then it will happen on its own. Trust me, you will feel a lot more at ease...


Kimly Le Nguyen

Writing is my own expressive outlet and I hope that you appreciate or take some of this advice into consideration. I try to be unbiased since I wrote this in the heat of the moment;I suppose this piece I wrote has much to do with what I am going through in my love life at the moment.

I haven't got much time to waste, its time to make my way

Hands down, and hail to the Queen of Pop, MADONNA. She pretty much defines confidence, the empowerment for women, and the importance of self-dependence by her presence alone.

The lyrics to this song is motivating, direct, strong and of course what else, it is absolutely fabulous.

"I'm going down my own road, and I CAN make it alone."